“Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away”
- Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
THE QUITTER’S CLUB blog
People pleasing, perfectionism, booze, skinny jeans, crappy cheese - everyone’s quitting something. Join me here in a quest for less of what’s holding you back from a life of sustainable, authentic joy.
When “I Deserve” Feels Gross: The Quiet Cost of Not Seeing Your Worth
Believing you don't deserve protects you from risk, from action, from showing up for yourself. But it costs everything: your power, your peace, your health. Here's the vicious cycle that creates burnout—and how to break it.
How Well-Intentioned Leaders Accidentally Create Burnout Culture at Work AND Home
You manage your team one way. You manage your family another. Right? Probably not. The same beliefs that drive your leadership at work are organizing your home life—often in ways you don't recognize until the cost becomes undeniable.
Secure Leadership: Why Your Behaviors Won't Stick Without the Inner Work
You can learn the behaviors of a secure leader. But unless you understand your emotional blindspots, your nervous system, and what your worth is actually tied to, the behaviors won't stick. Here's why—and what actually changes things.
Why Passive Aggression Is the #1 Driver of Burnout (And What to Do About It)
The #1 driver of burnout isn't hours worked. It's repressed anger + the passive-aggressive behaviors that let off just enough steam to keep the dam from breaking. You're exhausted from tolerating something that requires enormous energy to manage. Learn to recognize the pattern—and break free.
The Default Parent's Guide: What It Is, Why It Happens, and How to Actually Change It
If everyone calls you first, you know all the answers, and you're running on empty—this guide is for you. Understand why default parenting happens and five concrete ways to actually change it.
4 Ways to Stop Carrying What You Don't Need (Backed by Science)
Why do we hold onto things we don't need? Turns out, your brain values what you own twice as much as identical items you don't—even rotting pumpkins. This isn't just about stuff. It's about the invisible weight of old beliefs, unprocessed grief, and expectations that aren't yours. Here's how to spot what you're carrying and practice setting it down.
How to Get Out of High Conflict (And Why It's Burning You Out)
Perpetual frustration, replaying conversations, feeling like nothing will ever change. Sound familiar? Here's the difference between conflict that moves you and conflict that swallows you whole.
You Can't Build a Village If You Won't Let Anyone In: Learning to Receive
Hyper-independence is praised as strength. But it's quietly burning you out. The other half of community is receiving help. Here's how to practice it in 3 steps.
How to Stop Updating Friends and Start Making Real Memories: The Friendshift Your Nervous System Actually Needs
Your "I'm busy" friendships won't heal burnout. Real connection requires showing up in person—and your nervous system knows the difference. Here's how to actually do it.
The 5 Signs Your “Social Opting Out” Is Amplifying Stress—And Why Your Brain Tells You "No Time for Friends"
Overwhelmed people isolate. Your brain calls it "efficiency." It's actually your nervous system in protection mode. And it's making burnout worse. Here's why isolation is a burnout accelerant—and why connection is the antidote.
10 Boundary Mistakes I See in Every Client, Team, and Organization I Work With
Almost every burned-out person I coach makes the same 10 boundary mistakes. They think they know what boundaries are—but they're usually confusing them with something else entirely. Here's what actually works.
You Freed Up All This Time. So Why Do You Still Feel Behind? The Real Reason Your Productivity Isn't Translating to Peace
You optimized everything. Technology freed your calendar. So why does your nervous system still feel drowning? Here's the neuroscience behind why saving time doesn't equal feeling less overwhelmed—and what actually works.
POV: A Haunted House, But It's Just Your Free Hour
You finally get a free hour—and freeze. Should you exercise? Rest? Tackle emails? 45 minutes later, you've done nothing and feel worse. If free time feels like a haunted house of unfinished projects, this is for you. Learn why you're stuck and how to actually use time without the paralysis.
How to Have Difficult Conversations at Work: A Guide to Building Authentic Professional Relationships Without Getting Fired
That conversation you're avoiding? You'll pay now with short-term discomfort, or later with burnout from simmering resentment and powerlessness. Learn the VIEW framework, physiological regulation tools, and boundary-setting to transform workplace culture—before you're too depleted to care.
The Forest Fire Model of Mission-Driven Burnout: When Good Work Goes Wrong
Why do people who care the most burn out the fastest? This isn't about working too hard—it's about the unique pressures of mission-driven work. Learn the Forest Fire Model that helped Butler County workers go from "best training ever" to sustainable careers that actually sustain.
Why Asking Questions Beats Giving Advice Every Time (+ Examples)
Einstein said he'd spend 55 minutes defining problems, 5 solving them. Most leaders do the opposite—rushing to give advice instead of asking powerful questions. Learn the one shift that transforms conversations, unlocks innovation & builds deeper connections. 🧠✨
The Adult Friendship Crisis: How to Build Real Connections When You're Too Tired to Text Back
Harvard study: friendships predict health better than cholesterol. Yet 50% of adults are lonely. Here's the research-backed formula for building real connections when you're too burned out to text back + why your nervous system is literally craving friendship.
Stop Believing These 5 Burnout Recovery Myths: The Realistic Guide for Exhausted Professionals
Think burnout makes you less productive? Think again. 44% of burned-out workers actually work HARDER. These 5 myths about recovery are keeping you stuck in cycles that make burnout worse. Here's what actually works.
The 5 Hidden Faces of Burnout: Why You're Not Just "Tired" (And How to Finally Break Free)
You nod along when someone says they’re burned out — but secretly think to yourself “actually I’m fine, I’m just…” because what you're experiencing doesn't match the picture in your head. Turns out, burnout isn’t binary. It has 5 different faces—and recognizing yours is the key to finally breaking free.
Why 72% of Entrepreneurs Are Making Decisions Like They're Legally Drunk (And How to Fix It)
72% of entrepreneurs make decisions like they're legally drunk. It's not about working harder—it's about protecting your most valuable business asset: your brain. Learn the Glass Ball Method to optimize cognitive performance without sacrificing your mission.
